Tuesday, December 11, 2007

Re: Why Women Cheat ...

This is a rant directly inspired by da Queen QoMC of the same title and my comment on it. You would notice that my comment had little or nothing to do with the post; it was just something on my mind at the time.

I have this friend who I call 'Aristo'. You guessed why; he's almost always in UNILAG! We both had our postgraduate studies in UNILAG about five years ago and at that time we did the Moremi-New Hall-Tinubu rounds together even though he was married then and I was not. (OK. Blame me for aiding and abetting but hear me out first)

We finished PG since 2002 and the last time I was in UNILAG was for a meeting (I swear) but Aristo no gree leave UNILAG o! Every year he's there running one course or the other and he's lucky he's got a stature that belies his age. After almost a decade of married life, he still looks like he's just out of school. He's got a good wife, three beautiful children and a very good job. He should be happy, right?

Aristo always has a program in UNILAG and he specializes in final year babes so that most times he breaks up with them when they graduate and go on youth service. He never hits the same department or faculty twice in a row and so far he's not been caught in his game. He introduced a babe to me last year as his fiancee and she was smiling like a christmas goat. I pitied her.

Every year he sends his family abroad for holidays or just for the fun of it and that gives him room to play the 'bachelor' game. If you visit him at home during this time, you would never believe he was ever married. Sometimes, the 'fiancee' even comes to stay a weekend or two.

Last week the bubble burst. Ironically, it was not over a UNILAG babe but a LASU babe. Stupid Girl came over to his house and his wife was there but she probably thought the wife was a rival too, so she stayed to claim her 'territory''. The wife, who is usually quiet to a fault actually allowed Stupid Girl to stay in her sitting room till late! Aristo called me at about 11 pm at night to give me the whole gist. He was afraid to go home. Guess where he was.

I told him I could not back him up because whatever I do then will have a direct bearing on my relationship with his family. We agreed that he would come clean and we would do the 'crisis management' thingy.

The Wife called me the next day, as per the usual Afenifere to tell me her plight and I really couldn't but sympathize with her as she cried. These were the thoughts running through my mind

1. When her husband hits the gym, what did she think? That he's doing it for her? Men, more than anything, suffer from inertia. It is only the promise of some serious money (as in professional sportsmen) or the promise of some serious pussy that would make a man hit the gym. If any man tells you otherwise ....

2. When her husband dresses up for lectures in the latest hip-hop fashion, does she know why? He wears them so as to 'blend' better on campus. It is is the first law of the Predator, blend as much as possible with your environment. There are some clothes my wife would not allow me to wear now. She wont even discuss it, she would simply run a scissors through them, by 'accident'. Its happened before I assure you. And I learn fast.

3. When her husband goes for his never ending 'lectures' on campus, what did she think? If I want to run any course now, I actually have to apply to my wife first before applying to the school. In fact she is my Educational Counselor and Course Adviser.

Then it gets to the point at which she said -between tears- that she was going to get even. When a woman talks like that me I dont doubt her o and I told my friend so. Now he's scared.

He's been asking me what to do ever since and sincerely, me I dont know. He should just keep begging her. Abi, what else can he do?

15 comments:

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

Okay, this tory na wa, oh. So, your friend was/is cheating on his wifey but did you ever encourage him to stop? I know that guys tend not to get involved in each other's love life issues, but mehn, this guy has no business being married to someone who wants him to commit to her alone, shebi?

Anyway, so, your boy wants to keep his marriage eh? Well, best of luck to them both. Don't know his Madam, but I doubt she will cheat on him. Your friend should go buy her some serious rocks, confess all his dirty ways, spend the rest of his life begging and keep his kini in his pants. Something tells me non of that will happen.

++shaking my head in bewilderment and trying not to chuckle because this is a very serious matter++

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

Oh, my did I stop by your blog twice in one day? Wow, well I wanted to tell you that I linked to your blog for a post I will publish on Wednesday....

CATWALQ a.k.a LAGBA-JESS said...

If only this guy had applied all the intelligence and creativity that he had used for his extra marital pursuits towards a business venture, he would be talking millions.

zerkhezi said...

ok,aristo messed up big time. I don't think there is any hope though, scorned women can be very evil and determined in their revenge. Plus even if she accepts any apology, alot of mending work is needed and it doesn't sound like aristo has the character to commit to something like that. Goodluck to him sha

Afrobabe said...

Mennnn the guy has got to buy her a new car oh...

oh, tot you meant me..

He will have to lick ass like crazy...

Jinta said...

This na trouble o. I 'hit the gym' but I dont know if it's a prerequisite for women chasing. I just feel better, healthier and I hate the thought of my paunch hanging over my belt, so I disagree with you.

Having said that, time for some serious self-examination.

anonymous gal said...

he he he. aristo messed up big time.

Anonymous said...

LOL, I know it's a serious matter but I do find it funny. The girl was actually there claiming her territory, wasn't the wife like going in and out of every room and stuff? Na wa sha. A friend of mine cheated to get even, she still didnt feel good enough, so she did something else. Much worse. It worked. Please dont ask me what and dont worry she didnt cut off his kini.

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

@ Anon: you are so useless! You give us a tasty morsel and then yank it away. Haba! Tell us what the babe did nah. Especially since it worked. We are dying to know...comeon!

lol!

desperate lady said...

Goddamn! Yep she should get even(some people won't agree with me but all the same it's my opinion).
Infact she should sleep with all his friends, the man is a biiiiiig fool. why exactly is he scared? stupid muther fucker. she shud cut off his balls.
NIMMO i'm glad you weren't in support of his bullshit, me like you abeg.

Ivanaa said...

two wrongs don't make a right, she should never feel that by sleeping with him she'll get even as in how?...aristo messed up as in big time...cheating is one thing but bringing a chic to your marital home now that's just plain ridiculous... he has an obligation to protect his family... where exactly does he sleep with this women...his marital bed? pathetic!
To be honest his wife is in a lot of pain...if she's a wise woman she would take that pain to God and just ask for the strength to forgive the guy...after all it is for better or worse...no be so?
and Love conquers all now!...
Wow!

Sherri said...

getting even is just stooping to his level, i agree with ivanaa..
no size rock is enough for this one in my book o other than a sincere remorse and 360 degree turn from his old ways...

Naapali said...

@Sherri; 360 degree turn takes him full circle and back to his old ways ;)

onydchic said...

I dunno, your story kinda upset me. If anything, as solomsydelle said, couldn't you encourage him to stop? It appears you're friends with his wife, and here you are playing the sympathetic ear while you've been observing this for years.

I don't want to judge, but its sad.

Isi said...

i am late, but i will leave a comment...
men hardly ever change. if he cheats, hits, or drinks....it may take a thousand years for change to happen.
she either lives with it or leave the man!

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